When short boys begin thinking about dating during or after puberty, they may find that they do not have many opportunities. Boys and girls of that age group are very conscious of peer pressure and with whom they are seen. Many girls do not want to date short boys because of what their friends may think, and how these friends will tease them for their choice.

As they grow into men and women, height becomes less important and there are more opportunities for the short man. However, by this time the short man has received few positive signals and many rejections. He may have developed low self-esteem which can lead to poor personal presentation habits. He may also have become bitter or resentful of the women who did not find him attractive. All of these factors make it doubly difficult for the short man to form a meaningful relationship.

These dating tips are largely intended to help repair those poor habits. If you have other tips that have worked for you and can be included here, please Contact Us.

  1. Personality.
    There are some men who go through life with a permanent frown on their face. They feel put down and rejected. Their feelings may be very real but that kind out outlook on life is not very attractive. People like to be with other people who are fun and seem to enjoy life. Try to look upon life this way or if you can't, at least pretend and maybe one day you will. You may not feel confident at first but giving the impression that you are confident can be very attractive. The more you date, and the more women you meet, the more confident you will become.

    Smile a lot. But don't be goofy. Show women that you like life. Just about everyone likes to laugh and likes to be with people who make them laugh. Humor is also a good way to show your intelligence. But never laugh at your height or make jokes about it. Don't draw attention to your height. Don't be the court jester. Let women see you for the hundreds of other positive qualities that you possess.

    Self-confidence can be a struggle for short men. It's a Catch-22: You need self-confidence to succeed but you may need a history of successes to have self-confidence. Somehow you must break out of the negative cycle and have faith in yourself. If you want someone to believe in you, you have to believe in yourself.

  2. Body language.
    Your self-confidence is exhibited not just in what you have to say and how you say it but in the way you present yourself. Be conscious of what your body language is saying about you. Do you look tense or angry? Do you cross your arms or clench your fists? Do you spent most of your time looking down at your feet? All of these positions signal a person who is on guard or feeling inferior.

    Open yourself up. Invite people in with body language that is relaxed and open. And perhaps most important of all, maintain eye contact. Show the person you are talking to, be it a friend or a woman you would like to get close to, that you are not afraid of them and that you are not mentally elsewhere. Look them in the eyes and be an active member of the conversation.

  3. Develop excellent verbal skills.
    This is a good way to demonstrate that you are intelligent and have important things to say. Like anything else, showing good verbal skills requires practice. Put yourself in situations where you have to speak. Consider joining a Toastmasters club.


  4. Work your body.
    There may not be a lot that you can do about your height but you have a lot of other physical qualities that can probably be improved to make you more attractive to the opposite sex.

  5. Dress well.
    Be conscious about how you dress, especially depending on the social situation. What you wear at the gym just won't cut it on that first date; unless of course your first date is at the gym. Consider subscribing to GQ to stay in touch with the latest fashions.


  6. Power and leadership.
    This may be a little more difficult but power is also an aphrodisiac. The president of a club gets a lot more respect and attention than the 30 other members. Put yourself in center stage. Be noticed.

  7. Define your goals.
    Sorry but few of us short men are likely to have long-term relationships with drop dead gorgeous supermodels. It's OK to compromise. Just take some time to decide how much you are willing to compromise on your ideal of Miss Perfect. If you are too proud or idealistic, then you may have a long lonely life ahead.

  8. Get out there.
    Nothing is going to happen sitting home alone. Turn off the TV, shut down the computer and go out and meet people. Join a club or three. Got interests? Photography, acting, art, music, movies, debating, etc? Join a group based on something you're interested in so you can meet women who share that interest. Strike up conversations. Become friends and see what develops.

    However, before you turn off that computer, you should seriously consider Online Personals as an option. With their advanced search options and features, they allow short men to concentrate their efforts on finding women with whom they may have a real possibility to date.

  9. Be yourself.
    After all of these superficial changes, it's still important for you to be yourself. You want to put your best foot forward but you also don't want to sell a lie. What ever your interests, politics or religious beliefs, they are your own. Find comfort in the knowledge that you are a real person with your own unique understanding of the way the world works. Don't ever loose who you are.